"The Mirror Test: Why You Might Be the Red Flag," is about yourself

, primarily directed at men recovering from divorce. The core message is a challenge to men to stop blaming their ex-partners and instead look inward to identify their own contribution to the relationship's collapse.

Key points include:

• Take Personal Accountability: The focus should shift from diagnosing the ex (e.g., as a narcissist) to asking, "What did I bring into that relationship that made it collapse?"

• The Real Red Flag is Neediness: The author argues that the real danger in dating isn't the "player" (who can eventually commit and has boundaries) but the "needy guy," who uses the "relationship kind of guy" identity as "code for 'I don’t know how to form boundaries.'"